Comments on Hobocamp: ...that perches in the soul...

Typically I just lurk and enjoy the hell out of yo...

2009-09-30T19:12:35.221-05:00

Typically I just lurk and enjoy the hell out of your posts. Also, typically, I don't meddle in people's affairs. This time, however, I must speak up.

I could not possibly agree more with DanjerusKurves. Please read what she wrote again and again and again and again and again.

I'm just like her. Got the looks, the brain and the humor but I was not flexible

Oh Megs. DP sounds like an amazing, fantastic, awe...

2009-09-24T21:57:21.489-05:00

Oh Megs. DP sounds like an amazing, fantastic, awesome gem of a man.

I'm currently in a long-distance relationship with the most wonderful guy I've ever met. I never thought it would happen for me, but it's worth it every day. Do what feels right for you, and follow your heart. You don't have to give up your dreams. Just expand them.

I'm currently separated by necessity from my w...

2009-09-17T18:03:59.968-05:00

I'm currently separated by necessity from my wife of 6 years, for a total of 4 months. I got accepted to law school on the other side of the continent from where she's finishing her nursing school. Neither of us gave up on each other, but didn't obstruct each other's desires. How are we coping? Skype video chat every other day or so. And staying busy. If your 10 months with

dangerous curves and lemonade are spot on. 1-2 yea...

2009-09-15T16:41:22.647-05:00

dangerous curves and lemonade are spot on. 1-2 years isn't giving anything up. its compromise.

If you can find a way to compromise, to meld your ...

2009-09-15T08:27:23.987-05:00

If you can find a way to compromise, to meld your two potential life paths together? That would be ideal. I left NYC - my beloved city - for my now-husband. At the time I really struggled with the idea that I was giving up myself and my dreams for him. But hey - I found new goals and new dreams that worked in my new city. Go with your gut.

"we barely knew each other, but he smiled eve...

2009-09-14T23:17:50.976-05:00

"we barely knew each other, but he smiled every time he saw me, and you can build a life on that."

just let it be, meg, and see where life takes you. yes, you're already more lucky than most people will ever be, but why should that be enough?

Gotta agree. 2 years is not so much in the grand s...

2009-09-14T16:06:11.033-05:00

Gotta agree. 2 years is not so much in the grand scheme of things. And once you have babies in the mix, life suddenly feels like there's only 5 minutes left of it and there's SO MUCH TO DO BEFORE IT'S OVER. Maybe that's just me ... ... On a related but not very helpful note, I remember arguing w/ my new husband about who would drive. I was used to being single, and he was used to

Dr. Poop certainly sounds like a keeper...except f...

2009-09-14T13:20:57.532-05:00

Dr. Poop certainly sounds like a keeper...except for that unfortunate name ;)

Re: "I'm just not the kind of girl who can abandon her dreams and follow a man." Modifying your plans and giving up your dreams are two very different things. What you describe...going to med school, adopting and/or making babies...seems to be what you want in life, only if you go with Dr. Poop,

He sounds like a douche. You need to break up with...

2009-09-14T12:14:35.942-05:00

He sounds like a douche. You need to break up with him asap and git wit me.

~ Piney, who would buy a lip gloss FACTORY for you.

PS, Maxine, I'm sorry I gave you that bad dose of raimmuni. I didn't know I had it even, honest.

Assuming you have ruled out that perhaps you are e...

2009-09-14T11:53:28.007-05:00

Assuming you have ruled out that perhaps you are experiencing (1) a fear of commitment, or (2) a fear of rejection ... a couple of years in the overall scheme of life is just a blink, sweetie. Awesome relationships don't just drop out of the sky every five years, trust me on that. Would you actually be giving up your dreams or would you be exercising a measure of flexibility in order to stay

Hmmm, I think it says a lot that you're even c...

2009-09-14T10:47:50.264-05:00

Hmmm, I think it says a lot that you're even considering the possibility of that second 'or' - y'know? Having said that, I also firmly and completely understand the "I'm not that kind of girl" and why should you give up your dreams and all. But May & June are a ways off, and it's a good sign that both of you are already thinking that far ahead... come back

From what you're saying, he sounds darling. I...

2009-09-13T21:33:16.352-05:00

From what you're saying, he sounds darling. I have no idea what you should do--it's a tough decision and there are never any guarantees in any relationships. That said, plans change all the time. You've walked down a long and windy path to get where you are now, and it wasn't all planned. Maybe plans and dreams can change...

Good luck and enjoy whatever time you

Ohio is not so bad. Though you are right about th...

2009-09-13T18:40:32.334-05:00

Ohio is not so bad.

Though you are right about the sneaky enormity. I curse it mightily each time we drive to Chicago.

I can see why you're not sure what to do but.....

2009-09-13T18:29:50.443-05:00

I can see why you're not sure what to do but....I have to say....my husband is the only man I have ever met that understands and caters to my lip gloss addiction. That makes him a keeper in my book so Dr. Poop? Ya. Keep him. You'll never find that again and it's the little things like that that make a relationship wonderful and that make it WORK.

.....but I also understand

I agree with everyone else... don't let him ge...

2009-09-13T18:03:46.239-05:00

I agree with everyone else... don't let him get away! The Sephora thing alone... *swoon* :) Good luck with your studies and future moves, wherever they may find you. :)

p.s. My word verification is "raimmuni," which either sounds like a fancy Ramen-noodle-containing dish. Or a disease.

he washes your car? And sends you Sephora gift car...

2009-09-13T16:55:00.359-05:00

he washes your car? And sends you Sephora gift cards? Ummm....if you do break up w/ him, which I do not recommend, please let me know as I may divorce my husband for him.

Oh missy-lou, that's a hard one. I have to sa...

2009-09-13T16:42:41.538-05:00

Oh missy-lou, that's a hard one. I have to say though, that out of all of Dr. Poop's AMAZING attributes,

"who scours sephora.com during his overnight shift looking for a particular lip gloss that I ran out of and adored, and when he can't finds it he sends me a gift card to the site with a note saying "buy more lip gloss- you can never have too much,"

Lock that shit down.

2009-09-13T15:25:10.932-05:00

Lock that shit down.